How to plan a romantic surprise for your partner!

You know that feeling when you get home from seeing a movie that was just so good you can’t wait to tell everyone you know… That’s me right now.

My feet had barely touched the ground (literally!) and already I was uploading photos to my laptop and talking non-stop to my flatmates and friends (and anyone else who’d listen).

Shortly after our wedding, we made the commitment to have a weekly date night. It’s not a novel suggestion, but I think that the importance of one-on-one time often falls by the wayside when competing interests arise, and I don’t want to let that happen. On Monday I pulled off a masterstroke surprise for Blair (IMHO), an afternoon planned to perfection with Our Date Nite.


Details below, but first:

How to plan a romantic surprise for your partner!

Whether you’ve been together for two months or twenty years, there’s never a bad time to turn the everyday into a day to never forget. It can be as simple as a candlelit dinner, or as elaborate as what we planned with Our Date Nite.

The element of surprise – essential to any romantic ‘surprise’ is that he doesn’t see it coming. I caught Blair off-guard by telling him that we were having lunch with friends in Onehunga, though he may have got a whiff of the surprise when I suggested he wear his new (but fairly casual) Zara shirt…

To ensure he shows up on time and doesn’t schedule any other plans, you’ll have to tell him something – a little white lie – and I thought one that involved other people would ensure that we were on time. Set up a fake event – a movie night with friends, or even a surprise party for someone else. Don’t involve too many people in your plan if you don’t really need to, though – and only give him enough notice as really necessary.

I didn’t even tell our friends that Blair and I were ‘planning to meet them’. So, when our drive to ‘lunch with friends’ took a turn into an industrial zone, a confused Blair wondering why we were turning into a ‘heliport-only’ road – even when I told him ‘we’re going in a helicopter’ he didn’t believe me, beginning to back out of the carpark.

Plan something special

It doesn’t have to be fancy – Blair surprised me two years ago on Valentine’s Day with Stand up Paddleboarding at Mission Bay. He knew I’d wanted to do it for a while, so it was really special when he surprised me with it.

If he usually cooks, tell him you’re going to your parents’ for dinner, and instead whisk(ey) him away to the Jefferson (see our visit to the Jefferson) or light some candles and order in.

Whatever you do, plan something that’s different and memorable. My best friend recently surprised me with a girls’ night in – she’d set the room up for a sleepover and had all the bubbles, snacks, movies and nail-polish we could ever need. It made me feel SO special that she’d gone to the trouble to surprise me.

The romantic surprise I planned for my husband!

Usually our “date nights” are dinner and a movie… but Blair had missed out on taking a helicopter trip on our honeymoon, which he’s wanted to do for around 15 years! I couldn’t wait to take the opportunity to surprise him with one.

Before our flight, we each had a private lesson in the helicopter flight simulator. Blair was significantly better than I was (and now he wants to fly a helicopter as well as fixed-wing aircraft), but I surprised myself by how much I actually enjoyed the sensation of ‘flying’ the aircraft myself (which has never been a desire of mine, personally).


Simulator aced (by at least one of us) we were in the real thing, floating across Auckland harbour taking in breathtaking views to Rangitoto, Waiheke Island and beyond. We landed by a beautiful little chapel by Man O’War vineyards over on the eastern end of Waiheke Island, in New Zealand’s Hauraki Gulf. I’d never been over to the eastern side of Waiheke Island before as it’s quite a drive across from the Matiatia Wharf ferry by Oneroa.



We enjoyed a wine tasting to start, before selecting our wines and two platters to share (all included in our package organised by Our Date Nite.

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It was absolute perfection, delicious food and wine and views across the water from the only beach-front cellar door location on Waiheke Island.

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It goes without saying that we didn’t want to leave this magnificent setting.


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It’s his turn to surprise me now… I’ve got my eyes on this!


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