If you’ve just picked up (or kindly been gifted) a wedding organiser and diary, I’m sure you’ve already begun filling its pages with your wedding inspiration, plans and musings.
Journalling as Therapy
Starting a journal can be so incredibly therapeutic, and this will be of tremendous value throughout your engagement.
Planning your wedding can be an exciting, exhilarating, but sometimes stressful experience. Keeping a wedding journal and diary like the little white book through the wedding planning process can help keep your stress levels down during that time. Of course, it also gives you a written record and special keepsake of how you felt on the months, weeks, and then final days leading up to your wedding. For instance, I was able to record and chronicle the events of my engagement parties, my bachelorette trip to vegas, the stress involved with buying, picking up, and then fitting my wedding dress, and even my small disagreements over wedding plans.
Keeping a journal is a great way of processing all of these little things – it really is a therapeautic and stress-reducing aid, during a time which can feel a bit overwhelming.
Use your Wedding Diary for Decision Making
Instead of just keeping a traditional wedding binder or folder to stay organised, the little white book was created to be hybrid of a wedding organiser and a diary.
Unlike regular wedding planning diaries, which you will be likely to forget about and tuck under the bed or in a drawer for months and months, because it is part of your life (as your daily diary), you are much more likely to actually use it, and it can help you make all the crucial (and day-to-day) wedding planning decisions.
Just the little things, like reflecting on why you whether like one wedding venue over the other can really help you make a decision. The process of physically writing things down encourages your brain to truly think about your choices, and bring clarity to your decisions. This will help you stay organised while you’re wedding planning.
A Keepsake of your Engagement
I wish I could’ve convinced Blair to do this, but if your fiancé is open to it, keeping a journal in the lead-up to your wedding day is a really special keepsake for you to have years into your marriage (and see also I still do – a wedding anniversary memory book).
Keep your own engagement diary, especially in the last few months, you can reflect on the time, and what marriage means to you – a wedding journal is a keepsake of memories. From the day you get engaged up to the big day itself, there are many things that you’ll want to remember.
Later, when marriage gets tough (they say ‘marriage takes work’, you can look back and remember all the reasons you said “I do” and the promises you vowed to keep. If possible, make sure you (both) write an entry on the actual wedding day. You can have the groomsmen or bridesmaids transport it between you both if you don’t want to see each other before the ceremony.
Keeping a journal provided a great place for me to track everything that happened, recording memories that otherwise would have got lost in the midst of planning the actual wedding.
Plan for the Future
During your engagement, don’t just plan a wedding, but actually take a few minutes to sit down with your fiancé and write about where/how/who you want to be in 5/10 years.
Plan for the future – write about where you see yourselves as a married couple – travel, children, careers, relocations, etc. After you discuss your future together, take a moment to write your current thoughts on marriage and your goals, individually and as a collective. Prepare yourself not just for your ideal wedding, but your ideal marriage. “The best is yet to come”. After the wedding – and after the little white book, you can move onto I still do.
Other creative ways to use your wedding diary
I’ve been so incredibly inspired by brides sharing their #littlewhitebook pics, that I have to share a few. As you can see, it’s the perfect canvas for scrap-booking, drawings, photos and more. Inspired yet? Check out the little white book.
I'd love to hear how else you use your wedding organiser and diary. Do you have any other journal ideas for anyone who’s planning a wedding or about to be married? Don't forget to tag me in your photos!