If you can’t count your years together on one hand, I’m betting that most of you can count the number of date nights you’ve had this month. After years together, and more recently possibly months of wedding planning, it’s all too easy to slip into something very comfortable and spend your free nights separately watching Netflix on your respective devices.
If your longest conversations are by Facebook messenger, and you spend more time looking into the eyes of your significant pet-other than you do your fiance/spouse, here are 5 great date-nights to have when you’re on a budget.
1. Spend a night watching old movies and reminiscing!
I can’t stop talking about why it’s so important to reflect on all the good times in your relationship (I even wrote a book about it!). One of the best ways I like to do this is pick one of our favourite old movies, the ones we watched together in the first few months or years of our relationship.
When we first got together, there was nothing we loved more than spending the night cosied up with a bottle of bubbles, our favourite snacks and a couple of box-set DVDs. Nights like this remind me of our first ever nights together.
2. Wine Tasting!
While a restaurant meal can be an expensive night out, a wine tasting date still allows you the occasion of going out, usually for the cost of just a glass of wine (and redeemable on a bottle).
We’re so spoiled for choice with vineyards and fantastic wine in New Zealand, and heading to one of them for a wine-tasting afternoon is a great way to enjoy them – on a small budget.
3. Talk it through and write it down!
This weekend, we spent an afternoon sans phones and devices, talking through and writing down our feelings, goals, aspirations and more, with our very own copy of I still do. Of course, if you’re engaged, the little white book is the ideal place to make a note of how things are going, but it’s just as important to journal your marriage.
4. Walk & Talk
Especially when you’re in the midst of planning something significant (a wedding, a honeymoon, or renovations), frequently conversation revolves around that specific aspect of your life, at the expense of all else. Going out for a walk without access to phones or email encourages you to really talk, clearing your head of everything else that’s going on.
5. Mini Golf!
Shared experiences are the best conversation starters – a great meal (even more-so a bad one), a personal joke, a funny story. Spending a few hours a week doing something fun on your “date night”, perhaps going out of your routine and experiencing something new together will give you even more to talk about later.
Ever since we first started ‘dating’ we’ve played mini golf! For just $10-15 we spend a couple of hours laughing and talking, getting some healthy exercise, and more than a little healthy competition!
Like that time last weekend I beat Blair at mini golf…
(maybe we should stick to cosy nights in!)